10 Keys to Happiness

Friday, 24/2/2017

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” – Dale Carnegie

What happy people do to stay happy. Here's what I've learned :

1. IT’S OK TO BE SAD

You don’t have to be happy all the time, or even every day. Happy people know that it’s OK not to be happy some days. It’s important to process whatever feelings we have – sadness, anger, frustration or surprise.When bad things happen, as they do to all of us, be gentle on yourself. Don’t past on a false smile.The contrast of negative emotions can be beneficial, because they remind us how wonderful happiness is.

2. BEING HAPPY TAKES WORK

There are things that we can do to increase our happiness every day, but they take a some effort. Things like eating well, exercising, and getting plenty of rest help keep our bodies healthy.Searching out people and entertainment that makes you laugh or feel good, nurtures your soul.Taking the effort to eat right and surround yourself with good people pays off. You feel good to your core.

3. SELF-APPRECIATION IS MANDATORY

You need to learn to love and appreciate yourself, just the way you are. You are just as interesting, unique and remarkable as anyone else.Sometimes it’s hard to see our own best qualities. Or if we see them, we don’t always value them.So make a list of the things you love most about yourself, and remind yourself of these qualities regularly.

4. PEOPLE MUST BE A PRIORITY

We all need to feel loved and appreciated, and spending time with the people closest to us fosters warm feelings. Human beings have always been pack animals – we need to connect with people.When we’re just hanging out, enjoying each other’s company, we’re sending and receiving subtle messages of love and appreciation.Strong relationships help us survive the tough times, as well as celebrating the good times.

5. COMPARISONS ARE FUTILE

Comparing yourself to someone else is always going to end in tears. It doesn’t matter if you compare body shape, bank balances, or boyfriends.There’s always going to be people both ahead of you, and behind you, on any scale. The only person you have to satisfy is yourself.

Try to consider the things that people might envy you for, so you can value those things too.

6. SOMETIMES MEMORIES SURFACE

Everyone has some unpleasant memories. They’re part of life, and trying to suppress them is futile.When we work through the pain and learn to accept the past we’re able to close the door gently on those ‘rooms’ in our mind. We can choose to visit those rooms if and when we feel inclined. But we can also gently close them off, so that we can grow and heal.Your memories are part of you, so carry them with grace.

7. OVER ANALYSIS IS YOUR ENEMY

We’re all capable of analyzing a situation to death. Wondering whether someone else’s actions have deeper meanings than they do, or endlessly turning things over in our mind.It’s fine to think about situations, and establish what you can learn from them. But sometimes our mind gets a little obsessed and repeatedly churns things over, on an endless, self-flagellating loop.When this happens think, Thanks Mind, and move on to other things.

8. ATTITUDE CAN BE CHOSEN

Choosing your attitude is easier said than done. I never used to believe it was possible. But it is.The key is to change can’t to can. Whenever you find yourself thinking that you can’t do something, it’s important to stop and force yourself to think about what you can do.Try thinking, ‘If someone could solve this, how would they do it?” Distancing yourself from the problem in this way opens up new ideas, and pretty soon you’ll be capable of anything.

9. LIVING HAPPENS NOW

Don’t put off living. We tell ourselves we’lI happy when the kids are older, or when we get the next pay rise, or when we get a new job.But when we get those things we put off being happy until we achieve the next great milestone.Happy people live now. They feel now. They love now. This doesn’t mean they don’t have goals, but they appreciate what they have now.No one knows how many tomorrows they’ll have, so make sure you live today.

10. HAPPINESS IS NOT FOR SALE

Sometime we don’t realize that all those little ‘rewards’ we buy ourselves are really a way of compensating for a lack of satisfaction in some aspect of our lives.If you’re living for your next holiday, or wondering why the latest tech toys don’t make you happy, it might be time to look a little deeper.Maybe you’re trying to buy yourself some happiness, instead of addressing a major issue in your life. Maybe – only you will know.

Credit to : 

POSSIBILITY OF CHANGE

Program yourself to experience happiness Okay!!

Thanks and smile,

Maddy.

Happy Valentine's Day

14.2.2017

Happy Valentines Day dari saya :) magie n me

Kepada yang tengah bercinta, selamat berbahagia. Kepada yang tidak ada pasangan selamat berbahagia juga buat anda. Kepada yang sudah berkahwin, semoga bertambah bahagia dalam perkahwinan anda ya. Dan buat mereka yang tidak merayakan Valentine's day, diam lebih baik dari berbicara okay. :D

Saya tidak akan berceloteh banyak buat pasangan yang tengah hangat bercinta. Tapi buat anda yang diluar sana yang tengah kecewa, saya akan berkongsikan sedikit sebanyak ayat motivasi untuk anda.

.Hi orang yang tengah kecewa, perlu anda ketahui bahawa anda bukanlah keseorangan. Dunia ini luas. Setiap orang mempunyai masalah hidup yang tidak diselesaikan . Saat anda memikirkan bahawa anda tidak diperlukan, ditinggalkan atau tidak penting dalam hidup seseorang yang anda cinta. Perlu anda ingat dalam hidup, kita bukan bergantung kepada cinta semata-mata. Dalam dunia yang sebesar ini banyak masalah yang lebih besar masalahnya dari cinta. Mungkin anda memikirkan hanya dia seorang sahaja yang mampu memberi anda cinta yang sehebat romeo and juliet. Anda salah, anda mungkin lupa yang dunia ini luas. Ramai lagi mereka diluar sana mencari cinta atau kecewa seperti anda. Yang sebetulnya anda lakukan ialah "move on". Walau bagaimanapun, tidak salah untuk bersedih saat kita ditinggalkan orang yang tersayang tapi jangan sampai hidup menjadi hura hara. Jangan bersedih atau murung dan berkurung terlalu lama. Sampaikan makan minum pun tidak terjaga. Itu merupakan satu kerugian besar untuk diri anda sendiri tau.

Banyak benda manfaat yang boleh anda lakukan untuk mengurangkan rasa sedih. Sebelum ini, masa anda banyak dihabiskan untuk si dia sampaikan anda lupa yang lain. Cuba berfikir rasional sedikit bahawa selain pasangan anda, orang yang paling menyayangi anda dalam dunia ini ialah famili anda sendiri. Jangan abaikan mereka. Masa itulah anda boleh meluangkan lebih banyak masa dengan mereka. Luang masa dengan kawan-kawan anda juga. Jika sebelum ini anda hilang focus akan diri sendiri, masa inilah anda boleh enjoy sepuas-puasnya dengan "me time"anda. Lakukan apa yang anda minat dan suka lakukan selagi ia tidak merosakan diri anda sendiri. Yang penting dalam hidup kita ialah kita harus respect diri kita dahulu sebelum orang lain respect kita. Boleh enjoy tetapi perlu ada limit. 

Dan lagi satu, jangan pernah memaksa orang lain mencintai anda sepertimana anda pun tidak ingin dipaksa. Orang cakap cinta itu hadir tanpa dipaksa. Kalau orang meninggalkan kita untuk orang lain. Jangan pernah memikirkan kita kekurangan. Apa guna kalau dia stay dengan kita tapi happy bersama yang lain. Maybe ada yang lebih baik yang lebih memberi kegembiraan untuk kita diluar sana. Yang penting jangan pernah give up dalam cinta okay. Semua orang layak untuk dicintai dan mencintai. Tetapi perhubungan cinta itu akan menyakitkan jikalau salah percaturannya. Apapun jangan risau, dari  rasa sakit itulah mengajar kita untuk menghargai rasa bahagia. hehe adioss

Philosopy saya dalam perhubungan ialah saya tidak akan pernah memaksa orang mencintai atau membenci saya kerana saya sendiri pun tidak ingin dipaksa. Kalau saya suka saya akan tunjukkan saya suka. Kalau tidak suka, sebaiknya jangan melayan. Bukan bererti saya benci, tetapi saya selalu dinasihatkan supaya tidak suka suki memberi orang harapan sekiranya kita tiada niat untuk memilih dia. And kalau saya merasakan tiada priority dalam hidup seseorang itu saya lebih suka diam dan mengundurkan diri. Bukan saya hilang cinta atau jauh sekali benci, just saya stop investing. Bagi saya, perhubungan itu merupakan satu investment. Investment bukan hanya untuk duit semata-mata.  Perhubungan itu pun investment juga. Dalam hubungan dua belah pihak perlu ada commitment. Jika dia lebih gembira bersama orang lain siapa saya untuk menghalangnya. Setiap individu ada hak untuk bahagia, Tak perlu nak complicatedkan hidup sangat. Lagipun untuk masa sekarang saya tidak interested untuk cinta yang main-main. Kalau dah cinta satu, tidak terlintas langsung untuk extra. Tetapi kalau cinta saya dipermainkan, saya sentiasa percaya dengan kebaikan. Biar orang mempermainkan kita tetapi jangan kita mempermainkan orang okay. Kalau yang dah lama bercinta then putus mungkin ada hikmah disebaliknya. Maybe orang nampak saya gila-gila tetapi tidak dalam perhubungan. Perhubungan bukan untuk dimainkan. Sekian, TQ :)=

14/1/2017 Saturday/Sabtu

Selamat pagi sabtu!

Saya suka dengan ayat motivasi di atas. Rasa bersemangat pulak menulis pagi sabtu ni. Bila gambar itu berkata, "Jangan sesekali biarkan sesiapa berkata yang anda tidak boleh melakukan sesuatu, termasuk saya. anda mempunyai harapan dan cita-cita, Anda mesti melindunginya. Bila mereka tidak boleh melakukan sesuatu, mereka juga akan mengatakan yang anda juga tidak boleh melakukannya. jika anda mahukan sesuatu, dapatkannya. Masa." (sekali baca period tu datang bulan hihi).

Memang betul. Kita boleh dengar, lihat dan nilaikan pendapat orang lain terhadap kita. Tetapi untuk membiarkan orang lain menentukan hala tuju hidup kita itu seharusnya tidak berlaku. Baik buruk keputusan yang kita ambil itu hidup kita. Jangan pernah menyesal dengan setiap apa yang pernah berlaku. Sekiranya kita gagal dalam hidup bukan bererti kita gagal selamanya. Tetapi sekiranya kita gagal berulang kali dengan benda yang sama, masalahnya ada pada diri kita sendiri. Renungkan dengan mendalam apa silap kita, apa benda yang perlu kita ubah dalam diri agar kesalahan yang sama tidak berulang lagi. Jangan kita terus menyalahkan orang lain melainkan diri kita sendiri. Orang bijak pandai berkata, setiap kegagalan mengajar kita erti manisnya sebuah kejayaan. Senyum. Senyum itu perlu dari hati. Kalau bibir senyum tetapi hati mati, jadilah senyuman ngeri. heee ;p

 Setiap daripada kita mempunyai keinginan, mempunyai impian dan angan-angan. Tetapi tahukah anda bahawa modal utama untuk kita mencapai setiap keinginan atau angan-angan itu bukanlah wang semata-mata. Modal utama kita ialah keberanian. Dalam setiap individu perlu adanya keberanian yang tebal. Keberanian untuk menghadapi segala risiko yang berlaku. Keberanian berdepan masalah. Jangan mudah menyerah atau berputus asa. Yang penting kita perlu gigih serta focus dengan matlamat hidup kita. Biarlah apa orang nak kata. Hidup kita hak kita. Tapi jangan sesekali kita mengejar sesuatu itu sampai mengabaikan benda yang terpenting dalam hidup kita. Terutamanya keluarga kita. Orang yang kita sayang. Jangan sampai seperti peribahasa Melayu, "kera di hutan disusukan anak di rumah mati kelaparan". Maksudnya kita lebih mengutamakan kepentingan di luar dari apa yang sangat penting dalam hidup kita. Kejar kejayaan tapi jangan sampai lupa daratan okay. Bila kita lupa diri, semuanya mudah hilang dan pergi. Jadi, tak perlulah kita tamak dalam mengejar kejayaan. Nanti yang dikejar tak dapat, yang dikendong pulak berciciran. Kita mungkin tak cukup baik di mata semua orang tetapi ketahuilah bahawa kita sentiasa terbaik di mata keluarga serta kesayangan kita. Jadi jangan pernah mengabai benda yang kita ada. Apapun yang terjadi dalam hidup kita, percayalah all things are done according to God's plan. Yakinlah akan selalu baik pada akhinya. Amen :)

Thank you. Happy Weekend!

 i miss you toink2

Consider a situation..

8/12/2016


Consider a situation: You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears.

After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 80 km an hour in a 60 kmph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and paying a $60 traffic fine, you arrived at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.

After arriving at the office 30 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.


Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the traffic policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your wife kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good a day you are having. Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret:

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel till it fall off? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive.

Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it! You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Channel your energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why vent out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to read, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.


Credit to : Elite Readers

STOP CHASING PEOPLE & START CHASING YOUR DREAMS

13/10/2016

Last night I got into a heated discussion with a friend of mine who happens to be a relationship expert.  We were discussing the “person with a lot of options” dating type.  This type has the package of looks, success, personality and appeal that makes him or her desirable to a lot of people.  Often, the “person with a lot of options” resists settling down and uses having lots of options as a reason to not commit to any one person (they are having too much fun enjoying not having to choose just one person). But my friend asserted that it is possible to convince the “person with a lot of options” type to pick you.  He went on to say that if someone is really wowed by someone and “played” correctly, they can be convinced to change their willingness to commit.

Whether that is true or not true is irrelevant to me.  The bigger question is why in the world would you try and convince someone to be with you? Granted, at the beginning of any relationship there is some wooing that goes on.  When we first start dating someone, it’s natural to put a little more effort in so the other person knows that you like him/her.  But there is a line between wooing someone because you are mutually interested in relationship and convincing someone to be in a relationship with you when they are not looking for one.

Have you crossed the line? Here’s how you know: when someone is clear that they are not looking for a commitment and you are, do you hear that information and know that is your time to opt out because your values don’t align? Or do you start to think of ways that you could possibly convince this person to pick you?

If you choose the latter, then you are entering into what I call relationship gaming.  It starts when we start to ignore our top values and our ego comes in and says, “I want what I want and I’m going after it.”  You then start thinking of ways to manipulate, convince and strategize your actions to get what you want.  There is nothing wrong with relationship gaming if you want to build a relationship based on strategy rather than authenticity.  But if you want an authentic, intimate, spiritual partnership, get out of the game.

I also challenge you to be honest about how much you truly value commitment. If you are chasing after someone who does not want to commit and judging that the other person has fear of commitment, look in the mirror.  If you truly value commitment, why are you going after someone who doesn’t? The truth is that you may fear commitment also. As much as you say you want someone to be in a loving, intimate and committed relationship with you, part of you may not think it’s possible.  Maybe you’ve been hurt in the past by a committed relationship and unconsciously you are putting effort into a relationship that will never become committed as a way to protect yourself.  Or perhaps you have some limiting beliefs about your worthiness, which are fueling your pattern of chasing after crumbs. And as much as you want to receive love, there is something about it that scares you.

Now back to my friend’s point of being able to convince someone that doesn’t want a commitment to commit to you.  As great as the “person with a lot of options” type may seem, if they do not value commitment and you do, then is the person really that great?  We often get so mesmerized with the attributes of a person (i.e. what they look like, their personality, what they do in the world, etc.) that we overlook their values and what they are actually telling us they want! And when you do “get” them, you may not even want them because you’re probably more in love with the fantasy than the actual person. Furthermore, don’t you want the experience of choosing AND being chosen?  Are convincing and chasing really part of the love story that you want to tell?

We’ve all heard stories about serial daters and commitment phobes who finally change when they meet their “match.” But here is what I have observed about this phenomenon: it is true that we can be catalysts for another person’s change, but in most cases in order to be that catalyst we have to be totally unattached to being it. Let’s go back to the “person with a lot of options” type.  Even those types fall in love and settle down, but usually not with someone who went into the relationship tolerating his/her lack of commitment and with a motive to change him/her. It is detachment, acceptance and honoring our own truth that often creates the inspiration for someone to find the truth within his/herself. That said, don’t try to strategize about how to be unattached about changing someone, hoping they will change — that is still attachment!

My encouragement to you is to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about whether or not you are dating or chasing.  You are worthy of a relationship that you do not have to chase after.  You deserve feeling peace in your relationship. You are deserving of someone who shares your values. You have a huge heart with so much love to give and if someone isn’t “choosing” you, why do you keep choosing him/her?!?!?

Take back your power and pursue a relationship with wooing but not chasing.  Choose wisely someone who will choose you back.  Most importantly, choose to honor and respect yourself first.  Trust that we all have a lot of options when it comes to relationships, but that the one relationship we MUST have is the one with ourselves.  If you want to attract a wonderful, loving partner who treats you the way you want to be treated, you will do that when you love yourself and treat yourself with respect, kindness and love.   So stop running after someone else.  Choose you. Pick you.  Chase you.

Credit to : Christine Hassler

P/S : Being yourself as you are and being honest the whole time will bring true love. The games should be short lived if it's real.  If not, it will naturally fall apart or never come to fruition.

Thursday sayings..

Hi to all!!

Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle okay! As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it.

Reality is always true to itself. When you’re in harmony with it, you experience bliss. As soon as you are not in harmony with it, you experience pain. This is the law of the universe; it is the way things are. Nobody gets out of this law.

There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so and feeling good about yourself is the best sleeping pill of all. smile:p

But first, let me take a selfie!!珞

My bff said, "selfie is the best treatment for stress." haha.. Tq ross.

Mutiara Kata

11/5/2016

Holla. 

Mutiara kata buat renungan dan pedoman kita bersama okay 😊.

"Semalam adalah suatu kenangan hari ini adalah suatu kenyataan manakala esok adalah suatu penantian. Kenangan semalam hendaklah kita simpan buat pedoman di hari depan dan kenyataan hari ini hendaklah kita tempuhi dengan tabah tetapi kita juga harus bersedia untuk menanti hari esok yang merupakan suatu penyeksaan. 

Menyedari kesalahan sendiri adalah lebih baik daripada menegur kesalahan yang dilakukan oleh orang lain. Hal demikian kerana menilai diri sendiri adalah jauh lebih susah dari menilai 1000 orang lain. 

Sesungguhnya dunia itu mengkhayalkan."

Sekian.💇

Terima kasih buat anda yang membaca. Sesungguhnya membaca itu boleh menambahkan ilmu dan dapat meningkatkan daya pengetahuan kita.👍👌👍

*****

Selfie pagi-pagi sebelum diri focus menghadap kerja demi menambahkan rezeki. 😅.

Menyambut pagi

Selamat pagi Selasa semua!

Awal-awal pagi dah sampai office. Orang cakap waktu pagi adalah waktu terpenting untuk memotivasikan diri kita. Jika hari kita dimulai dengan mood ceria dan berfikiran positive, nescaya kita akan mendapat hari yang indah. Jadi, sambutlah pagi kita dengan senyuman dan damai di hati okay. Walau sebesar manapun masalah yang dihadapi, bersabarlah kerana setiap permasalah hadir untuk menguji nilai ketabahan seorang insan. Ambil sudut positif dari setiap masalah dihadapi. Jika kita banyak memikirkan buruk dari yang baik, itu hanya menambahkan beban masalah yang ditanggung dan akhirnya memakan diri. Hidup sentiasa tidak tenang. Hidup yang tenang lahir dari jiwa yang sentiasa bersyukur kepada Tuhan. Setiap agama di dunia mengajarkan umatnya supaya sentiasa bersyukur dan menerima takdir yang telah ditetapkan untuk dirinya. Tiada satupun agama yang kejam. Yang kejam itu adalah umatnya. Dan jangan kita mudah menghakimi seseorang itu kerana kita tidak layak untuk menghakimi. Selayaknya kita ialah menghormati serta melayani sesama insan sepertimana diri kita ingin dihormati dan dilayani. Apa-apapun, hidup itu indah jika kita tahu menghargai baik buruknya. Okay itu je untuk hari ini hhee.

Anyway..gambar dibawah diketegorikan diluar topik heheeee.. :D

yo yo je tgk jam..yang sebenarnya itu posing yang tak menjadi. Biar jadi tatapan generasi nanti-nanti hihi. Manatauu dah tua boring-boring boleh la throwback.. hahaha. Selasa mood baju kurung. Baju beli sebab teruja nak join member beraya. Tak lama lagi puasaa..buat yang muslim. Selamat berpuasa. Wish advance hehe.

Tadaa..ini dia tempat mengais mencari bersuap-suap nasi..huhuee. Btw wallpaper supernatural theme kat desktop tu sentiasa menemani dimana sahaja pc kerjaku berada. 

Sekian dan terima kasih.

- Imperfect me.

My favorite song right now!

Hello Sunday Funday!!

I love lotsss of songs but this is just my favorite right now! I've been heard for this song for many-many times, This song has very meaningful lyrics but it is not related to my love life. I just love listening to the voice, the beat and the melody of this song, it cheers me up! Feeling aww lol! Anyway, If my life had a theme song I don't really know what it would. I love music and I usually listen to songs that fit my mood at the time. If I'm happy or calm I’ll listen to something that's up beat and feel to it. If I'm sad I’ll listen more to worship-songs or something soft so I can think or sleep and escape whatever’s bothering me, and if I'm feeling energetic I listen to something electronic like techno or remix and feel bangggg the world! hihieeeee! Music is so much more to me than just some catchy beat and words, all music overall are my theme songs in life. :)  And my song for today is "Lazy" by Bruno.

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And tadaaa!!!

This is what happened yesterday night after working more than 8 hours on Saturday!!!
#meminimizestressmaximizelife
#jangankecamvideosaya #toinktoink

It is hard to find balance when you have a busy life and being busy was never my life goal. My goal in life is to enjoy what I do and always find peace. My life may not be going the way I planned it, but it is going exactly the way God planned it! So, let us live life without regrets okay :)=

Big Dream, Little Me!

QOTD 

My Dreams & My Goals :)

Everyone has their own dreams and their own goals for what they want to achieve in life.  

I am one of those people that dream big and maybe a little too big heee.. 

I am strong believer that dreams do not come true by accident. In order to make our dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-displin and effort. 

My dreams are to go full adventure mode on life, filled with passion, joy and happiness! 

I want to be fearless. I want to show people the amazing and beautiful things I see. I want to motivate people to be the best of who they are, this could also make my life easier. I want to help them appreciate what they have. I want to appreciate what I have. I want to be a good woman to my man. I want to cheering my man up and comforting him. I will support him in the way he needs to be supported. I want to make him proud. My real goal is to bring light into his life, to be the yin to his yang :)= My other dream is to help people. I want to understand people, life and everything. I want everyone to be happy.  I want to be a successful entrepreneur. Last but not least, I want to be a successful writer. I don't need to be a bestselling author, but if only one person loved something I wrote, that would be satisfaction enough hueee. Anyway, you are the creator of your dreams. Actually you are only person in the world who is qualified to do this job. It doesn't matter how bad things are or how  far fetched the dream appears compared to where are you right now, never stop dreaming and believing okay! Best of luck to all!!

p/s:

I am a blogger. 

I like coding and javascript. I want to be a white hat hacker (good hacker). 

I like taking pictures. I want to be a pro photographer.

I love musics. I have dream to become a dubstep Dj huee...

I love foods and cooking! I'm dreaming to open my own restaurant and be a chef.

I really love reading and books. One day I hope to have my own home library.

I like gardening and planting. Status : Work in progress :)-

Sometimes i play dota 2. I dream to become a pro dota 2 gamer, got my own dota 2 team and win in every game tournaments. Starting with amateur tournaments before recruited by a professional league until hard core dota 2 tournament. Then, win in numerous events and known as a successful gamer in the worldd..oppss enough dreaming!! hahaaha this one dream is really blahhh blah blah toink-toink! Enough for me and back to reality hihi.

This is messy me.

 I am dream chaser. That means I chase my dream and no one else's, only I can defeat me. It's me against myself. There is no loosing..I will not lose...wish me luck!!.tadaaaaaa..

Thank you for reading!! :)

   

Tingkatkan Nilai Positif Dalam Diri Anda

Holla!

Sebelum November 2015 melabuhkan tirai, saya ingin "mereply" whatsapp si kawan dalam ruangan blog saya ini. Lama dah soalan ni tak berjawab. So, hari ini terfikir untuk menulis entry blog jadi ada la modal untuk ditulis :D . Maybe terkeluar topik sikit, tapi yang pasti intipati entry kali ni menjurus kepada nasihat ikhlas dari saya yang tak seberapa. Andai tersalah kata terlanjur bicara, maafkanlah diri ini okay.. see ya :p

Buat si kawan dan pembaca lainnya,

Setiap orang dari kita mempunyai keistemewaan masing-masing. Tiada siapa pun yang dilahirkan "perfect" dari segala hal. Kita harus menerima segala ketidaksempurnaan dalam diri kita dengan ikhlas. Jika kita ikhlas dengan diri kita sendiri, bersyukur dengan segala benda yang kita perolehi, nescaya itu akan membuatkan kita lebih tenang menjalani kehidupan seharian. Biasakan diri untuk bersyukur. Jangan mudah membandingkan diri kita dengan orang lain. Mereka hebat kerana kita merasakan mereka hebat. Mereka cantik kerana kita yang menilai mereka cantik. Tidak semua yang cantik itu indah, dan tidak semua yang kurang itu hodoh. Bila kita kerap membuat perbandingan diri kita dengan orang lain, tanpa sedar kita telah merendahkan kualiti diri kita sendiri. Walaupun kita tidak menyatakannya secara zahir, tetapi hakikatnya kita sendiri yang merasakan apa yang kita rasa. Contoh yang paling dekat ialah keyakinan terhadap fizikal diri kita sendiri. Ada sesetengah orang tidak confident berdepan dengan orang ramai hanya kerana muka berjerawat. Ada juga mudah merasa "down" kerana berat badan meningkat. Bila sentuh bab putus cinta pulak, kebanyakan mangsa yang ditinggalkan oleh pasangannya selalu berfikir dirinya "kekurangan". Semua ini ialah contoh yang boleh memberi aura negative dalam diri. Latih diri kita untuk menjadi positif okay. :)

Walaupun kita tidak "seperfect" insan lain; kita gemuk, kita keping, kita rendah, kita kurang upaya, kita itu, kita ini, kita tetap kita. Jangan paksa diri memenuhi keinginan orang lain. Jangan juga paksa orang mencintai kita kerana cinta itu sesuatu yang subjektif. Belajar untuk pasrah dalam kehidupan. Pasrah bukan bererti kita mengalah dan mengalah itu bukan bermaksud kita kalah. (pinjam ayat drama jap). Fikir. Fikir positif. Tingkatkan mutu diri kita. Jangan kerana seseorang itu ingin kita nampak cantik, handsome, macho bergaya, berfesyen tip top, kurus, slim, ramping, kita tanpa teragak-agak menukar identiti kita. Kita paksa diri kita untuk mengejar kesempurnaan demi memenangi cinta orang lain. Kita seksa diri kita. Jangan teruskan. Biarlah kita berubah atas dasar diri kita sendiri. Setkan dalam diri kita, "Saya nak kurus, bukan sebab dia tapi sebab saya nak bertambah cantik dan sihat. Saya akan buktikan yang saya pun boleh kurus." "Saya nak pakai baju ni, jubah tu, dress ni..bla bla..sebab saya nak nampak cantik dan selesa." Perubahan tanpa paksaan tidak akan melahirkan tekanan melainkan semangat diri. Semua itu datang dari diri kita sendiri. Dan perlu beringat juga, jangan mudah meletakkan pengharapan pada sesuatu yang belum pasti atau pada sesiapapun kerana pengharapan akan mengundang kekecewaan seandainya apa yang kita harapkan itu tidak diperoleh atau tidak menjadi. Akhirnya nanti siapa yang makan hati? Tiada siapa melainkan diri kita sendiri juga. Jadi, jika kita ingin memberi, berilah secara ikhlas  tanpa mengharapkan balasan dan jangan juga amalkan sikap suka mengungkit. Terkadang, bila kita marah atau tak puas hati dengan seseorang, kita mudah mengungkit kebaikan yang pernah kita lakukan terhadap dia. Kita menyesal berbuat baik padanya. Marah masih tak hilang, kita kondemkan dia sampai hati kita puas. Tapi puaskah hati kita? Kita dapat apa? Kita dapat apa kalau kita suka mengungkit atau burukkan orang lain? Kita tak dapat apa-apa malah kita boleh hilang banyak perkara. Jadi sebelum menyesal elok kita berfikir sedalam-dalamnya. Jika kita merasakan banyak negatif dari positif, elok kita berdiam diri sahaja. Nilai baik buruk kita. Jangan mudah berbangga dengan setiap kebaikan yang pernah kita lakukan. Jaga tutur kata kita. Semaikan nilai rendah hati iaitu nilai yang sering memposisikan diri sama seperti orang lain dan tidak melebih-lebih. Dan elakkan juga sikap terlampau rendah diri kerana sikap tersebut boleh menunjukkan seseorang itu tidak percaya akan potensi dirinya sendiri. Orang yang selalu rendah diri akan merasakan "kualiti" dirinya lebih rendah dari orang lain. Apa-apapun, tiada siapa yang sempurna. Terimalah kekurangan diri kita seadanya dan jangan pernah menjadikan ketidak-sempurnaa dalam diri kita itu sebagai alasan untuk gagal tetapi jadikanlah setiap kegagalan itu sebagai pendidik dalam kehidupan kita. Jangan mengejar kesempurnaan tetapi kejarlah kejayaan. Kita boleh berubah menjadi insan yang lebih baik dari semalam jika kita menginkannya kerana hanya kita yang mampu mengubah diri kita dan bukan orang lain. Setiap dari kita mempunyai kelebihan masing-masing. Bila kita menginginkan kehidupan seperti orang lain, selalu membandingkan diri kita dengan orang lain, jadi orang lain, sampai bila-bila pun kita tidak akan menikmati kehidupan kita yang sebenar. 

Orang yang hebat ialah bukan orang yang "perfect" dari segala segi tetapi orang hebat ialah orang yang boleh menerima dan mencintai ketidaksempurnaan dirinya serta orang lain dengan sempurna. Sekian, terima kasih :)

Ikhlas,

imperfect me